Talking to Oneisha Perrotte-Lewis, author of 5 Steps to Embracing your Grief: Turn your Pain into Power!
1. Tell me (and the readers) a little bit about yourself, including a quirk that you have.
My name is Oneisha Perrotte-Lewis, I am 25 years old and I am from Montréal, Quebec. I am an established author, a life coach, a motivational speaker and a mother to an angel. 👼🏾
In March 2020, I had a car accident that left me injured and unable to return to work in the nursing field. I made the decision to leave my job and work full-time for myself by becoming my own brand! I am fun to be around, I love to motivate others, I love to listen to music, I love to meditate, I love to be at one with nature, I love sushi, I always strive for perfection in everything that I do and I am a quick learner. I speak to myself very often so if you see my lips moving, don’t be alarmed, I’m having my daily conference meetings! 😂
2. How did the idea for your book, come about?
“5 Steps to Embracing your Grief: Turn your Pain into Power!” would have never been written if I did not experience losing my own son. I knew that I wanted to create a guide about grief which I could share with women who have also experienced the loss of a child and I ended up writing an entire book! We all are grieving something or someone on a daily basis and I wanted to make this book generally about grief using examples of how I’m dealing with the loss of my son.
3. What was the most enjoyable and stressful part about writing this book?
Writing is my therapy. I feel free when I am writing and in that moment, I have a chance to properly express myself. It felt amazing to write my feelings on paper and use that pain to help someone! I, also, really enjoyed writing this book because I did not tell a lot of people that I was pregnant and this was my chance to bring my son into the world without him physically being here. The stressful part about writing this book was the fact that I had to write it in the first place and a lot of times, I would break down while putting my ideas together. Yet, I allowed myself to completely go with the flow for this book and I did not hold back.
4. Who was the first person you asked to read your book after it was ready and why them?
The first person that I asked to read my book was my aunt! She was supposed to have a baby girl and unfortunately, she did not make it. I felt so close to my aunt because we have both lost our children.
I felt like she was the only one that I could connect with in the family about this matter and I wanted her to read this book because I knew it would mean a lot to her. When I lost Jaden, my aunt and I had a conversation that I will cherish forever. Hearing my aunt speak about her daughter more than 40 years later, she is still able to communicate every detail about her experience and you can tell that she is still filled with so much sorrow. It warmed my heart to know that her daughter will still cross her mind every day. This is why my aunt had to be the first one to read this book because in her days, she had to be silent about her loss. Miscarriages weren’t something that was discussed yet mostly pushed away and forgotten by those around but never by those who have experienced it. My aunt absolutely loved the book and she also said, it was the best book that she ever read. 🤍
5. Are you planning to release another book anytime soon?
Yes, I am planning to release my newest book named, “I love YOU, little bean: A 90 Day Journey to Discovering Beauty in Loss” which be available at Amazon on September 14th, 2021 which was my due date. 👼🏾🤍This book will be about the 90 Day Healing Challenge that I challenged myself to when my son passed away.
I wrote to my son every day for 90 days straight and I even provide a section in the book for parents who experienced child loss to do the same thing. As I mentioned before miscarriage is something that people never wanted to discuss, and this is my way of bringing the conversation back to life! We have to acknowledge of angel(s)! 🤍🙏🏾
6. If you could venture into a different genre, which would you choose to write on?
If I could venture off into a different genre, it would definitely be a romance novel. Growing up, my grandmother would always find a way to purchase books for me as she knew I loved reading and it always ended up being a romance novel!
I absolutely loved the passion, the excitement, the scandal and the charisma. In today’s society, there are so many different opinions on what love should be like and I think it would be a very interesting genre for me to write on especially the fact that love is not always about hugs, kisses, flowers or chocolates. Everyone loves the idea of love but hates the idea that love isn’t always lovely.
7. Did you always know you wanted to be a published author/poet?
Absolutely! I dreamt about becoming an author from the age of 12 years old.
I always felt that it was my calling to leave legacies on this Earth and my books would be one of them. 👑
8. Did you look up to any author or poet while growing up?
Growing up, I love to read poetry especially from poets like Maya Angelou, Langston Hughes, James Baldwin and I love the entire collection of books from Sharon M. Draper. She is definitely one of the authors that I looked up to the most because I felt like I was finally able to read books that spoke to me especially as a young black girl trying to find her purpose in this world. ✨
9. Lastly, do you have any words of wisdom for aspiring writers out there?
If you have a story, write. If you have the courage to share, write. If you have an idea on your mind, write. If you feel discouraged, write. If you don’t know where to start, write! The only thing that is stopping you from creating your beautiful book is yourself. You have no idea who will be inspired by reading your stories, you have no idea who you’d be helping and you have no idea how many lives you’d save or change! Books really do happen overnight because it, first, appears in a dream! 🦋
5 Steps To Embracing Your Grief: Turn Your Pain Into Power by Oneisha Lewis is a book to help navigate your pain after the loss of a loved one and be a helping hand. We’ve all experienced loss and the grief that follows and every individual reacts differently to it.
The author speaks of her own loss in this book and it’s through her own experience that she pens down words of support to those who need it. She helps identify that you are still grieving, even if you’ve locked it up within yourself and once you are ready (everyone has their own pace) she helps you move forward slowly. A person cannot just ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one and move on. These things take time and the author has found that when we write about what we are expecting, it lightens the burden so there are pages where we can write about our new guardian angel(s).
If you know someone is grieving please be there for them, but please don’t expect them to be ok in a jiffy. This is a process that takes times and saying things like ‘Death is a part of life’ doesn’t really help.
If you or someone you know has lost someone close to them, pick up this book. It could be your partner, friend, family member or even a pet, it doesn’t matter, grief is grief and this book acts as a sliver of hope to hold on to while you fight your battles.
Author’s Instagram: https://instagram.com/iamoneishalewis?utm_medium=copy_link
Amazon India: https://www.amazon.in/dp/B096J1G8WW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_W6AC4Q6NW86H58GZSP47
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