Author Interview: Oneisha Perrotte-Lewis!

Talking to Oneisha Perrotte-Lewis, author of 5 Steps to Embracing your Grief: Turn your Pain into Power!

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Interview:


1. Tell me (and the readers) a little bit about yourself, including a quirk that you have.


My name is Oneisha Perrotte-Lewis, I am 25 years old and I am from Montréal, Quebec. I am an established author, a life coach, a motivational speaker and a mother to an angel. 👼🏾

In March 2020, I had a car accident that left me injured and unable to return to work in the nursing field. I made the decision to leave my job and work full-time for myself by becoming my own brand! I am fun to be around, I love to motivate others, I love to listen to music, I love to meditate, I love to be at one with nature, I love sushi, I always strive for perfection in everything that I do and I am a quick learner. I speak to myself very often so if you see my lips moving, don’t be alarmed, I’m having my daily conference meetings! 😂



2. How did the idea for your book, come about?


“5 Steps to Embracing your Grief: Turn your Pain into Power!” would have never been written if I did not experience losing my own son. I knew that I wanted to create a guide about grief which I could share with women who have also experienced the loss of a child and I ended up writing an entire book! We all are grieving something or someone on a daily basis and I wanted to make this book generally about grief using examples of how I’m dealing with the loss of my son.



3. What was the most enjoyable and stressful part about writing this book?


Writing is my therapy. I feel free when I am writing and in that moment, I have a chance to properly express myself. It felt amazing to write my feelings on paper and use that pain to help someone! I, also, really enjoyed writing this book because I did not tell a lot of people that I was pregnant and this was my chance to bring my son into the world without him physically being here. The stressful part about writing this book was the fact that I had to write it in the first place and a lot of times, I would break down while putting my ideas together. Yet, I allowed myself to completely go with the flow for this book and I did not hold back.



4. Who was the first person you asked to read your book after it was ready and why them?


The first person that I asked to read my book was my aunt! She was supposed to have a baby girl and unfortunately, she did not make it. I felt so close to my aunt because we have both lost our children.

I felt like she was the only one that I could connect with in the family about this matter and I wanted her to read this book because I knew it would mean a lot to her. When I lost Jaden, my aunt and I had a conversation that I will cherish forever. Hearing my aunt speak about her daughter more than 40 years later, she is still able to communicate every detail about her experience and you can tell that she is still filled with so much sorrow. It warmed my heart to know that her daughter will still cross her mind every day. This is why my aunt had to be the first one to read this book because in her days, she had to be silent about her loss. Miscarriages weren’t something that was discussed yet mostly pushed away and forgotten by those around but never by those who have experienced it. My aunt absolutely loved the book and she also said, it was the best book that she ever read. 🤍



5. Are you planning to release another book anytime soon?


Yes, I am planning to release my newest book named, “I love YOU, little bean: A 90 Day Journey to Discovering Beauty in Loss” which be available at Amazon on September 14th, 2021 which was my due date. 👼🏾🤍This book will be about the 90 Day Healing Challenge that I challenged myself to when my son passed away.

I wrote to my son every day for 90 days straight and I even provide a section in the book for parents who experienced child loss to do the same thing. As I mentioned before miscarriage is something that people never wanted to discuss, and this is my way of bringing the conversation back to life! We have to acknowledge of angel(s)! 🤍🙏🏾



6. If you could venture into a different genre, which would you choose to write on?


If I could venture off into a different genre, it would definitely be a romance novel. Growing up, my grandmother would always find a way to purchase books for me as she knew I loved reading and it always ended up being a romance novel!

I absolutely loved the passion, the excitement, the scandal and the charisma. In today’s society, there are so many different opinions on what love should be like and I think it would be a very interesting genre for me to write on especially the fact that love is not always about hugs, kisses, flowers or chocolates. Everyone loves the idea of love but hates the idea that love isn’t always lovely.



7. Did you always know you wanted to be a published author/poet?


Absolutely! I dreamt about becoming an author from the age of 12 years old.

I always felt that it was my calling to leave legacies on this Earth and my books would be one of them. 👑



8. Did you look up to any author or poet while growing up?


Growing up, I love to read poetry especially from poets like Maya Angelou, Langston Hughes, James Baldwin and I love the entire collection of books from Sharon M. Draper. She is definitely one of the authors that I looked up to the most because I felt like I was finally able to read books that spoke to me especially as a young black girl trying to find her purpose in this world. ✨



9. Lastly, do you have any words of wisdom for aspiring writers out there?


If you have a story, write. If you have the courage to share, write. If you have an idea on your mind, write. If you feel discouraged, write. If you don’t know where to start, write! The only thing that is stopping you from creating your beautiful book is yourself. You have no idea who will be inspired by reading your stories, you have no idea who you’d be helping and you have no idea how many lives you’d save or change! Books really do happen overnight because it, first, appears in a dream! 🦋

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Book Review:

5 Steps To Embracing Your Grief: Turn Your Pain Into Power by Oneisha Lewis is a book to help navigate your pain after the loss of a loved one and be a helping hand. We’ve all experienced loss and the grief that follows and every individual reacts differently to it.
The author speaks of her own loss in this book and it’s through her own experience that she pens down words of support to those who need it. She helps identify that you are still grieving, even if you’ve locked it up within yourself and once you are ready (everyone has their own pace) she helps you move forward slowly. A person cannot just ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one and move on. These things take time and the author has found that when we write about what we are expecting, it lightens the burden so there are pages where we can write about our new guardian angel(s).
If you know someone is grieving please be there for them, but please don’t expect them to be ok in a jiffy. This is a process that takes times and saying things like ‘Death is a part of life’ doesn’t really help.
If you or someone you know has lost someone close to them, pick up this book. It could be your partner, friend, family member or even a pet, it doesn’t matter, grief is grief and this book acts as a sliver of hope to hold on to while you fight your battles.

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Author’s Instagram: https://instagram.com/iamoneishalewis?utm_medium=copy_link

Amazon India: https://www.amazon.in/dp/B096J1G8WW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_W6AC4Q6NW86H58GZSP47

Amazon International: https://www.amazon.com/Steps-Embracing-Your-Grief-Power/dp/B096J1G8WW/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=5+Steps+To+Embracing+Your+Grief%3A+Turn+Your+Pain+Into+Power%21&qid=1629638517&sr=8-1

My Glass Are Turquoise Tinted by Shaymi Shah!

When was the last time
that you sat quietly
To observe what the sky looked like
in a state of tranquility?

My Glass Are Turquoise Tinted is a poetry book by Shaymi Shah thats centred around the use of the beauty of nature to talk about how we as humans are so used to a fast paced life that we don’t take a moment to breathe, look around us and enjoy the moment. Whether it’s in nature or having a conversation with someone you love. In a world where we look for everything and anything ‘instagrammable’, there’s beauty in the small moments around us but we’re just too distracted to see.
My favourite poem is Beauty, because of one stanza that talks about how beautiful nature is no matter what time of the year it is, and when you think about it, it’s true! Whether nature is blossoming with different flowers and leaves or covered in snow, it looks absolutely breathtaking!
Overall, I loved this book and would recommend it to anyone who needs to take a step back, whether you’re a poetry lover or not.

Rated 9/10
Melina L. 🦄

Heart of Hearts by William F. Burk!

Your Majesty, I am, the voice paused, the End of the World.

Blurb:

The Starborn…it was just a legend, right? The story of the “Heart of Hearts,” a philosopher-king who wielded the Sword Durandal? Lukas swept the monastery floors every day, his eyes always wandering to the old, chipped blade upon the altar. As orphans of the Zerlina monastery, he and Nox have been isolated from the world outside for the entirety of their lives. Despite the austere teachings of her guardian monk, Nox had always known she was different. Her crimson left eye made sure of that. She knew Lukas didn’t mind, though. To him, Nox was Nox and always would be. Every day, they would daydream about living out their lives as adventurers beyond the walls of the cathedral. But as mundane as they believe their world is, a dirge rides upon the wind. A dark hand is pulling strings, and the world of Lythia is on the brink of war. Evils stalk Nox from the comfort of shadows, and little do the two know that they are about to take the stage in a grand play of life and death. Lythia faces its greatest threat, and only the Heart of Hearts can give it salvation.

Review:

Heart of Hearts is a coming of age dark fantasy novel by William F. Burk is fast paced and gripped my fantasy loving heart from the very beginning! I finished this 400 page book in a day because it was do hard to put down. The author has the perfect elements for a fantasy novel; there’s a galore of magic, powerful yet relatable characters, an ‘I would die to save you’ trope, hidden powers, unanswered questions, a greedy villain and so much more!
As someone who reads a lot, the ‘OMG moments’ were little predictable (it’s not my fault my brain starts working on overdrive and joining the fors beforehand) nevertheless, it was still exciting to read in the moment!! The development of Lukas and Nox’s relationship is quite interesting because it’s different. Without giving any spoilers, a classic trope is amped up to fit the fantasy setting! Lukas and Nox as characters are also very intriguing and I loved Lukas’ character development by the end but I hope to see more from Nox! We’re introduced to a few side characters and like always I found myself drifting to a particular one (surprise, surprise 😂)!
When it comes to the writing and worldbuilding I feel the worldbuilding could be a little bit stronger. It misses that hot off pulling me into the world and walking the streets with the characters that I love, but it’s still not bad!
Even with the adventure and mystrey be ready to get your heart broken because it will and there wouldn’t be any fun if there wasn’t a few years right?
We’re left at a cliffhanger so I’m both very upset that I have to wait to find out what happens next and very excited at the same time!
This had elements that would be perfect for fans of A Darker Shade of Magic by VE Schwab and Shadow and Bone by Leigh Bardugo.

Rated 8.5/10
Melina L. 🦄

Enlightenment: The Union by Rose O’Rua!

‘I waited. And with the first breath of possibility, I jumped. Sink or Swim.’

Blurb:

By responding to an SOS, Mary Ashe could save her own soul, as well as that of her soulmate.

It is over twenty years since Mary refused to settle down with her first love, Joe Rowan, because she thought they were too young at the time. While regret still simmers below the calm surface of her emotions, she has become an expert at navigating the single life and has learnt to enjoy the advantages it offers.

Then, fate and time align to offer Mary an opportunity to rescue Joe when his ship is lost at sea. Joe, newly separated, is abroad a US Navy vessel reported missing after a tropical storm. Mary travels to Florida to join the search and rescue operation. But what good is all her expertise and years of experience in the Irish Coast Guard, if it’s too late and Joe’s body is already lying at the bottom of the ocean?

As the rescue progresses, Mary is chosen to join the US Navy’s first responder to the SOS. She quickly discovers that she is involved in more than a standard rescue mission and finds herself embroiled in the type of adventure that Joe and herself used to dream about when they were young; filled with secret codes, mystical occurrences and divine revelations.

Review:

Enlightenment: The Union is a mystical love story by Rose O’Rua. It’s a short book but it definitely packs a punch with its mixture of mystique, romance, adventure and espionage. Mary and Joe’s story feels like something even more unusual than a fairytale, especially if you are someone like me who thinks of ‘soulmates’ as something no more than a fantasy. But, this story explores a wider view of the concept of soulmates being more than something more than just two people destined to be together.
Add that to the bone-chilling adventure of a missing
We get to see a glimpse into Mary’s life in the beginning and how her independence is what makes her a great character for me. Her life may have been different if she and Joe stayed together in the beginning, but for me it was the fact that this separation was there not only to prove that they are ‘soulmates’ but that she can still thrive with or without him. Her perception of how the world works makes her a great character and I would love to see more stories with her (or someone just like her) in the future because even without her partner, for me she resembles a balance required individually.
Overall, this was a good quick read and I would highly recommend it if you’re someone who is a fan of adventure and doesn’t mind a little bit of philosophy.

Rated 8/10
Melina L. 🦄

Alcatraz Albatross by Bradley Lewis Foster!

It seems you’re scared there’s Something Upstairs
While you’re here you’ll fear inconsequence

Alcatraz Albatross is a modern day poetry and prose book by Bradley Lewis Foster!
My favourite poems are ‘They tell me he operated a shovel’ and ‘Owl’. They’re the more structural poems that give a story-like context and those are the types that I love. But when you view the poet’s work as a whole, it’s very chaotic. This isn’t the kinf of poetry with a beginning, middle and end but feel like bits and parts of someone’s brain. It feels like opening a new door with every page turned and not knowing what to expect. Is it going to be happy, sad, mind-bending? You won’t know unless you take the risk.
This gives it it’s chaotic essence mixed in with it’s beauty and emotion.
For e.g. ‘They tell me he operated a shovel’ is about a grandfather with whom there are no memories, but other people have memories with him and although it’s played off with a hint of nonchalance, there’s a tang of pain because no memories means that there’s no history.
Overall, I loved this book and it’s definitely one that a modern poetry lover would want to dive into.

Rated 8/10
Melina L. 🦄

IF Untold by Norelle Smith and S.P.W. Mitchell!

Power is intoxicating and the more I got, the more I wanted, the more I needed and demanded.

TW: domestic violence, abuse!

Blurb:

Francesca Romano’s life is no fairy tale. Hers is an uncontrolled world of silent tears and torment, where love crumbles and tragedy looms because of things left untold — because of the secrets that are kept. A world where honesty is obsolete, and youthful rebellion turns into total chaos. Francesca tries to gain control when she disappears to a new place, hoping to never be found. To a place where she can start anew, and escape the despair, emptiness, and fear of her former world. When she finds new love and new faith, she feels she is finally on the path to redemption and healing. Until one morning she gets a call, and all that which was left, returns to her, to satisfy an unfulfilled promise…

Review:

IF Untold by Norelle Smith and S.P.W. Mitchell is a fictional novel that tells the story of a relationship that keeps haunting the protagonist, Francesca even during her happy days. It shows the various things that effect an adult relationship, and it all starts with how children are treated by their parents at a young age. It’s said that if you grow up in a toxic environment, that’s all you know and are familiar with. So, as you get older you effect everyone that’s close to you and the cycle continues.
Reading about Francesca and Isaac’s stories as children in parallel to what’s going on in the present, we as readers can see how things went wrong. But, knowing that relationships like this (or similar to this) do exist makes it even more heartbreaking.
Francesca’s feelings for Issac may be shocking to most people, but, in reality relationships do exist because they’ve had such a huge impact on them over the years because of psychological factors. She’s seen him grow over the years and even though there’s a lot of ups and downs in the relationship, she still sees him as the young kid she once met.
You feel a wave of emotions as you can distinct between what’s good and bad, but your heart and mind are in this grey area at times where, along with the characters, your perception of right and wrong is altered.
The structure of the story could have been better with a few areas trimmed off, but overall the story is emotional and the last chapter let me know that even though it’s the end, it’s not really ‘the end’. There’s a long battle ahead and emotionally and mentally it’s a more realistic ending.

Rated 9/10
Melina L. 🦄

Conversations With Myself: Empowering Through the Art of Mindfulness by Neha Phull!

Conversations With Myself: Empowering Through the Art of Mindfulness is a candid narration, beginning from the path of negotiation leading to inspiration, all for the sake of loving thyself by Neha Phull. It’s a combination of a self help book and a glimpse into the author’s own journal as she details her journey on reconditioning her mind to help her open up and learn new things through personal development.
One of my favourite tasks that’s she did was stay silent for 48 hours both online and offline. It seems like a subtle act that will not cause a huge difference but when you realise how much the simple act of talking affects your day to day life do start to understand the importance of what you are saying and whether you have taken the time out to articulate your thoughts before you make a statement.
There’s also the process of ‘unlearning’ which is one of the most difficult things to do since we have all grown up learning that things are done a particular and we are taught to accept it just as they are. For e.g. from a young age we might be conditioned to believe that some groups of people are better than others. When we are young we do not think much about it but as we grow older some of us will ask ourselves why were we told these things. During these times the the process of unlearning becomes helpful because you have to recondition your mind to understand that just because we were told to accept a certain situation as is it might not always be the case and we need to make those decisions for ourselves.
The mind is complicated, and learning to open up your mind to not only accept new teachings but also how it can be used to help your own personal growth is very important. How we condition our mind to process our feelings and emotions not only affects our mental health but also affects the people around us and our relationship with them. Take for example, thinking before you speak. Many of us speak without a filter but if you just take a few seconds to think before we decide what to say there would be such a huge difference as we go ahead with any of our relationships with their friends, family or partners.
Overall, this is a very insightful book and I think this is one of the longest rivers I have ever written for a non fiction based book because I was so enthralled by how meaningful it turned out to be even though it was only around 100 pages long. Because of of the the way the author has written the book as partly as a form of a journal it gave a personal touch because most of the entries are written in the moment so so you want to read on to know more and to hear how her experiences with mindfulness have affected her life.

Rated 9/10
Melina L. 🦄

Worlds in Words by Aafreen Ali!

Am I a body with a mind
Or the consciousness inside?
Is body the all
Or there’s an independent soul?

Worlds in Words is a poetry book by Aafreen Ali that remind you of the thoughts and questions you have in the middle of the night when the rest of the world is asleep but you’re wide awake thinking about the deepest questions. A set of well written and 33 poems, my favourite is Immortal (I have a very weird relationship with poems related to life and death);

How naive it is to be scared of death
What about it makes you afraid?
It won’t catch up till your last breath
You’ll always be one step ahead
Because as you teem with life
Death stays forlorn
And when it finally arrives
You’re far gone
So make lemonade out of limes
And cherish heartbreaks with romance
Because cowards die many times
The valiant never taste of death but once
– Immortal

(How to Die Properly is a close second!)
All poems are centred around everyday topics but it’s written in such a way to make you ponder more deeply, hence the title ‘Worlds in Words’ because as you dive deeper into the poetry, you’ll find that it has a mind of its own and what may seem like simple writings turn out to be do much more. The poems are meticulously curated to unlock parts of your mind that are willing to question everything and cause (in the words of the poet herself) a ripple effect where the poem is a pebble and your mind a dark but calm pond. Honestly, this gave me chills as well as curiosity at the same time so I would recommend it to poetry lovers, however, I will also say, don’t rush into it just for the sake of reading it!

Rated 9/10
Melina L. 🦄

Common Sense & Multibaggers: Your Guide to Multibagger Exploration by Kalpesh Suryawanshi!

If you know what to do when your stock up and you know what to do when the stock is done, you pretty much understood the game of investing.

Common Sense & Multibaggers: Your Guide to Multibagger Exploration by Kalpesh Suryawanshi is written to help the retail investor in his search of multibaggers & to simplify the investment procedure. This book gives a basic introduction to the concept of multibaggers with the author’s own way of explaining it (the general definition: A multibagger stock is an equity stock which gives a return of more than 100%). The author also introduces readers to the various kinds of multibaggers for example potential multibaggers and superstar multibaggers. This book isn’t a financial advice book to tell you that ‘so and so is a good investment’ but it acts as a means for someone who’s getting into investing to understand what their available options are. At the end we do get a brief gist about understanding portfolio management and how valuation is done,
This is more geared towards the Indian market, and the author does manage to help you understand a little bit better by using examples that are common to us.
Overall, there needs to be a little bit more effort put on the editing but that’s about it. Like I said this isn’t an advisory book, but more along the lines of educational while using a lot of common sense (hence the title) and simple language to help the reader understand the various prospects. Always remember that every investment had its risks so you have to be aware of any financial decision you make but the greater the risk, the greater the reward.

Rated 8.5/10
Melina L. 🦄

Jeevan Sootra by Janhavi Joshi!


Jeevan Sootra by Janhavi Joshi is your personal guide to self master the art of living. Through a mixture of poetry and self help wrote ups, the author talks about the everyday occurunces in out life (which include topics like family and relationships) but mainly focuses on the importance of life and having a positive attitude towards it. We’ve grown up thinking that everyone else’s happiness comes before ours, but during a new era where self love and self care are proven to be a necessity, this books shows us that there’s a balance to everything but your well being comes before everyone else’s. It’s important to be humble and caring, but at the same time you shouldn’t be taken for granted.
Self care is only one of the many topics covered in this book, but it was one of the most impactful. We also understand things like the importance of seizing the moment or how mistakes are a part of growing up and it’s the mistakes that help us learn to be better.
A trigger warning, the last chapter in the book is based on suicide. I decided to mention it here because I have different views on suicide so it’s a ‘agree to disagree’ moment for me and I know that there’s always a debate on it.
But, overall I do like the book because it’s structured well and the poems are nice. I would’ve liked a little more elaboration on certain chapters because they felt too rushed and not as helpful or insightful as a few other chapters.

Rated 7.5/10
Melina L.

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